How did I get Mrs. B to go to the hospital? I drew a chart of where she was when I first met her, where she was the previous Friday, where she wanted to be and where she was…. knocking at death’s door. It went from the peak of a mountain to the valley. I called 911 with her blessing.
One of my recommendations in my initial report was that she organize her paper work. It was scattered about her desk and should an emergency arise, it would be difficult to present the appropriate paper work without a frenzy which is exactly what I was thrust into when the paramedic asked me for her Medicare card.
Mrs. B had pneumonia. She was placed on antibiotics. She spent three weeks in the hospital. Both of her daughters came in from various parts of the world. So many friends came that I had to put visitation restrictions on her door. She is a fighter.
One day I came in and she was standing and sitting and standing and sitting. She was trying to work her muscles because she felt as if she would never walk again. Her whole body shook and no anti-depressant could stop it. She was scared. She became nauseous. She vomited blood. Instead of being transferred to the transitional care unit for rehabilitation, she was rushed to the intensive care unit. The diagnosis after two endoscopies? A massive pulsating ulcer—that could burst at anytime and end her life.
In the meantime, her husband was at home with in home care assistance and friends to ensure his safety. She did not communicate to with him. He was scared and sad. I had to find a way to both enable her to release the guilt she was carrying around about his imminent placement in an assisted living facility without directly confronting her and find a way to for her communicate to him before he was taken from his home and moved to another…without his wife of 40 years.
I interviewed Mrs. B’s daughter and a close family friend, a Guatemalan man that they raised and who will be the conservator when things go very south. They told me of the nicknames that Mrs. B and her husband had for one another and memories that would evoke feelings of joy and nostalgia. I set out and wrote a love letter to him on her behalf. Bidding him fair well with love, signed “all my love twinkle.” Mrs. B approved of the content and Mr. B held onto it as if it were laced with sticky honey. Not all lies are bad.
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Within 5 days of delivering the report, Mrs. B asked me to come to her home. She was shadowed by another woman who she sponsored at AA and who was there at our first meeting. We will call this woman, her shadow. At first I was suspicious. It is not just that I have an inherently distrustful nature, it is that I have seen these types linger around frail older adults with assets many times and THEY HAVE DONE BAD THINGS TO MY CLIENTS. In time, I came to not only trust the shadow, but because Mrs. B’s daughters were out of the country, I came to rely on her for doing the things that a daughter would do.
When I arrived, Mrs. B was sitting up in her bed upstairs eating a peanut butter and lettuce sandwich. Because she had to sleep in an upright position, she developed stenosis. She complained of pain. Overall she seemed determined and strong. Mrs. B again reiterated her desire to move her husband elsewhere and the conflict she felt about “institutionalizing” him. The consensus was that she would tour a facility by her home that I recommended. I asked her to articulate her wish list, and certainly regaining her strength was primary. However, it was clear that her mental attitude was an impediment, so we discussed anti-depressants. Being the stoic person that she was, she had stopped taking them.
I spoke with Mr. B, he was bored. Every day that I spoke with him he said he was bored. He had very bad hygiene, could not make his own meals, pick his clothes out or do his own laundry. I came to feel that placing him was the right and kind thing to do. He sat and sat and sat all day without any social interaction.
We had a plan. Mrs. B. would tour the assisted living facility the following Monday. By the time I left, she was up and about and demonstrating her new lift. She looked happy and hopeful. The next Monday when I met her at the facility, she looked like she was knocking on death’s door.
What happened? I kept asking myself this question. Just two days before it seemed like you could swim in her eyes. When I saw her that Monday, she did not look spry and her lids were heavy over her big blues. She could barely get out of the car and I needed to get wheelchair assistance. She had fallen the night before. There was no one there to help her.
The next morning I got phone call after phone call from one of her many friends “Mrs. B… keeps saying she is dying and she won’t let us take her to the hospital or the doctor.” I rushed back from my appointments and cancelled my day. Both she and her husband had fallen the night before and this time she was in terrible pain and scared. He was oblivious. She could barely breath. She was gagging on her coughs.
I gave her two choices I would either bring her to the hospital or I bring a doctor to her. She told this doctor, (a geriatric concierge medical doctor who did her residency in geriatrics) was accused of being a quack while conducting a bedside examination and dismissed her. Now what?
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This story begins 7 months ago when an attorney colleague asked me to call one of his clients who was frail. He knew that I was the person that had the skill set to ensure that she was getting her needs met and that she had a plan to stay healthy and safe. This person was the Magnificent Mrs. MB. Her daughter came in from Canada to assist her after she had a minor heart attack in the hospital after being hospitalized for a bleeding ulcer. One year earlier, Mrs. MB had an extensive and highly invasive surgery because she had esophageal cancer. They used her stomach to re-construct her esophagus and now, for the rest of her life, she must sleep in an upright position. She had COPD and now emphysema and used oxygen.
Mrs. MB is 76 years old and for almost her entire adult life was the care taker for her husband who in the 1980’s was in an automobile accident and suffered minor brain damage. Now in his 80’s he has a rather well entrenched case of dementia. I conducted a mini mental status examination and other standardized test on him that confirmed this diagnosis.
I did not meet with MB then. She did not want to hire me. Distrustful and afraid of change, she rejected her daughter’s pleas.
Exactly one month ago she called me. I went to meet with her. She had the biggest, bluest most alert eyes I have ever seen. They said I can size you up in a second and swallow you. I took her history. I found out that she was a retired psychiatric registered nurse. I found out that she wanted her husband out. She wanted her husband out. She had had enough. She was too frail to care for him and any suggestion of in home care for respite relief or getting him out of the house to an adult day health care center was not going to cut it. As time went on and as will be revealed later, I came to find out why I was being hired to be this seemingly affable man’s henchwoman.
As for her, she wanted her life back, she wanted to be social again and herself entertained moving into a nice assisted living facility. She had been an alcoholic and for the last 20 years a valued mentor to many suffering from that disease. Her social life centered around those functions. In order for her to accomplish that, it was clear that she needed major nutritional counseling. She was very thin. She needed a lift put into her home to assist her with the 15 stairs to her room and grab bars installed. And, her legal affairs had to be put in order. Her estate plan was woefully outdated.
This seemed like a very easy case, one that my initial retainer could cover. I went back to my office, wrote a report with my recommendations and findings and summarily delivered it. One of my recommendations was that she re-consider moving her husband. I thought that she was underestimating the value of having a routine every day suddenly evaporate. It could be lonely and isolating. Certainly she could get some relief through the adult day health care center or in home care. However, I would come to find out that there were people lining up to be at this woman’s side, every day, all day.
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Many older adults have asked me questions about shingles, a common viral illness, also known as herpes zoster or zoster. When I tell them that it is a form of herpes, they look at me the way I suppose I looked at a woman when she ordered sweetbreads when I waitress at a deli in Chicago. How could you eat cow brains to a college kid looks like how could I have herpes to a clean cut older adult.
The truth is that while people of any age can get a shingles infection once they have had a chicken pox infection; it is most common in people over the age of 60 (accounting for over ½ of all cases). It also strikes those who have altered immunity due to certain medications or treatments, such as chemotherapy, radiation therapy or steroid treatments or certain chronic conditions.
Shingles usually appears as a blistering rash along one side of the trunk, chest, back or face. There is a test for shingles in case you are not sure what to make of a new rash. It consists of a laboratory examination of cells taken from the skin.
There is also vaccine to prevent shingles, and it has been available for more than two years, but only a small percentage of my clients have reported being vaccinated. Many are distrustful of the vaccine and some think it is too expensive. Because the condition is particularly dangerous on the face (it can affect the eye and lead to temporary or permanent blindness), I urge everyone to get vaccinated.
There is also a risk of developing post herpetic neuralgia (pain, headaches, and nerve problems that occur as a complication of shingles). Post herpetic neuralgia lasts for at least 30 days and can continue for months to years. It most commonly occurs on the forehead or chest. The pain associated with post herpetic neuralgia may make it difficult to eat, sleep, and perform daily activities. It may also increase the risk for depression.
To address the first concern, I will cite to The Shingles Prevention Study, a large government-funded study, found that the vaccine prevented about 50 to 60 percent of shingles episodes in older adults. It also prevented about 70 percent of post herpetic neuralgia cases. Additionally, in the in the May 4, 2010 issue of Annals of Internal Medicine, scientists reported that the herpes zoster vaccine is safe and well-tolerated for most older adults. Finally, the vaccine has been recommended by CDC’s Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices, the American Academy of Family Physicians, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, and the American College of Physicians.
Please talk to your doctor about this because the vaccine is not appropriate for adults with weakened immune systems and those with allergies to gelatin, the antibiotic neomycin or any component of the shingles vaccine.
The vaccine costs can range from $150 to $300. Private insurance coverage varies. The vaccine is covered under the Medicare Part D drug benefit.
I never had the chicken pox and I never ate cow’s brains so where does that leave me? Can I catch shingles from an infected person? Or can you, my non vaccinated client pass it on to me? It appears only if I come in direct contact with the rash. The upshot? You can sneeze on me, cough on me but you cannot order or eat sweetbreads in front of me.
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This week I came to truly understand the connection between nutrition and what we typically call age related diseases. Because it is a new year and because most people make resolutions having to do with their health, I will take this as an opportunity to educate the public about why diet and exercise can help stave off strokes, diabetes, heart disease and Alzheimer’s disease.
First let me say that I am personally appalled at what I heard on a public radio station the other day, it was on the Pat Morrison Show. (I love her!) http://bit.ly/7NHP3z. Anyhoo, a woman from the University of San Diego who teaches in the woman’s studies department and who is the co-editor of “The Fat Studies Reader” actually stated that being fat has little do with mortality. I know, huh? There is an organized group for fat people, the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance. That group even has an acronym NAAFA.
Being fat is not acceptable. This is my blog and I get to say that. It is irresponsible to promote the idea that being fat is o.k. Being fat is not like being Black, or Jewish, or Hispanic or whatever minority or particular race which you inherently are. There is nothing that you can change about that. You can change being fat. There are fast food restaurants that charge the same for salads as they do for tacos or Big Macks. They have grilled chicken, etc. If someone is poor, and I believe that social factors such as income can impact food choices, there are healthy choices.
If being obese impacts the price of medical services, you should be discriminated against. If you being fat causes me to pay more in premiums, I can be angry with you.
Putting My diatribe aside, if you don’t want to have a heart attack, or a stroke or contract Alzheimer’s disease, stop eating the things that make you fat and exercise. Eating high fat foods causes plaque and cholesterol to build up in your arteries which cause atherosclerosis. This causes the arteries to narrow and makes the heart pump harder to get blood to go where it needs to go. This strain on the heart causes heart attacks. If the blood can’t get to the heart or the brain, the organs die. The brain and the heart die. You don’t need a degree in medicine to understand this. I bet the NAAFA won’t teach you this either.
If that is not convincing enough, autopsies of individuals who had Alzheimer’s disease had much more plaque in their arteries than those who did not have Alzheimer’s. In many people high cholesterol can be controlled by diet and exercise. If you are part of an organization supporting the right to be fat, quit and go for a walk.
Diabetes and high blood pressure have also been implicated as a risk factor for eventually developing Alzheimer’s disease. Type 2 diabetes is by far the most common variety of diabetes, usually occurring in people who weigh too much and exercise too little.
I am the opposite of a mean spirited person. But, I am deadly serious about educating people and providing them with the truth. The truth is being fat is not good for your health and anyone who tells you otherwise is BIG FAT LIER.
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Social Security establishes the age at which workers and their families may begin receiving retirement benefits. If you were born before 1938, this is set at age 65. If you were born between 1938 and 1954, the full retirement age increases progressively from 65 up to 66. If your birth year is 1955 or later, your full retirement age increases progressively up to 67. Age 67 is currently the oldest full retirement age though this could increase in the future.
Many people ask me if they will lose their social security benefits if they stay on the job or go back to work. With the economy being as it is, many older adults have put off retirement and are working past the time planned. If you have reached full retirement age you will not lose your benefits. This is the result of legislation passed in 2000.
Only those under full retirement age and already receiving Social Security Retirement Benefits are affected by the following (2008) limits. For that group of individuals the formula is as follows:
If you are under full retirement age you can earn up to $13,560 without penalty. For every $2.00 over the limit your benefits will be reduced by one dollar. If you are reaching full retirement age this year, you can earn up to $36,120 without penalty. Your benefits are reduced by $1 for every $3 earned over the limit. For example, if you earn $40,000 a year and your Social Security payout is $13,000 a year, that payout would fall by $1,293 (about 10%) to $11,707.
Again, if you have reached full retirement age, there is no penalty for earned income.
If you can make do without Social Security benefits until age 70, you will receive a larger monthly benefit. When they begin, monthly benefits will be increased substantially above the base full retirement age, increasing at about 7 to 8% for each year of delay beyond full retirement age. Conversely, if you begin before reaching your full retirement age, the monthly benefits are paid at a permanently reduced amount (up to 20 to 25% less) to reflect receiving benefits for more years.
Another question is whether an individual will continue to receive Social Security benefits as a widow (or widower) if that person remarries. The answer is yes, if you are at least 60 when you remarry. (A widow or widower isn’t actually eligible for benefits until age 60 or, if disabled, until 50.) Or you could apply to receive benefits based on your new spouse’s work record instead if those benefits would be higher. If you remarry before turning 60, however, you will be ineligible for widow’s benefits throughout your marriage.
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In order to understand the permutations of Medicare Part D, you must have a Lewis Carroll like sense of the absurd and a gift for games of logic and language.Hopefully this blog will give you the keys to unlock the mysterious door to this provision and help you determine when you will go into the hole and when you will come out of the hole.
What is Medicare Part D?
Medicare offers prescription drug coverage for everyone with Medicare. This is called “Part D.” This coverage may help lower prescription drug costs and help protect against higher costs in the future. It can give you greater access to drugs that you can use to prevent complications of diseases and stay well.
If you join a Medicare prescription drug plan, you pay a monthly premium. Part D is optional. If you decide not to enroll in a Medicare drug plan when you are first eligible, you may have to pay a penalty if you choose to join later.
There are two ways to get Medicare prescription drug coverage. You can either join a Medicare prescription drug plan that adds coverage to the original Medicare plan, or join a Medicare Advantage Health Plan (like an HMO or PPO) that includes prescription drug coverage. You get all of your Medicare health care including prescription drug coverage through these plans.
Medicare Advantage Plans (like HMOs and PPOs) that include prescription drug coverage as part of the plan are health plan options that are approved by Medicare but run by private companies. They are part of the Medicare Program. If you join a Medicare Advantage Plan you are still in Medicare.
What is the donut hole?
The standard Medicare Part D benefit includes an initial $295 deductible. After meeting the deductible the beneficiaries pay 25% of the cost of covered Part D prescription drugs, up to an initial coverage limit of $2,700. Once the initial coverage limit is reached, beneficiaries are subject to another deductible, known as the “Donut Hole,” in which they must pay the full costs of drugs.
When total out-of-pocket expenses on formulary drugs reach $4,350 – including the costs of the deductible and coinsurance, beneficiaries reach the “Catastrophic Coverage” benefit. Beneficiaries entitled to Catastrophic Coverage pay $2.40 for a generic or preferred drug and $6.00 for other drugs, or a flat 5% coinsurance, whichever is greater. This out-of-pocket amount is calculated annually. Beneficiaries who reach the out-of-pocket threshold in one year have to begin to meet it again on January 1st of the next year.
Only certain costs, such as money spent on formulary drugs (or non-formulary drugs that have been granted an exception by the plan), costs paid by the beneficiary’s family, a charity, or a State Pharmaceutical Assistance Program such as ConnPACE, count toward the true out-of-pocket spending requirement.
Costs paid for non-formulary drugs, cost of drugs purchased outside the United States, costs paid for by other insurance, including ADAP plans (CADAP in Connecticut), and Premiums paid to the Part D plan, do not count towards the requirement.
Do Medicare Prescription Drug Plans have Doughnut holes?
Each state offers at least one plan with some type of coverage during the coverage gap or donut hole. However, plans with gap coverage may charge a higher monthly premium so as to provide more coverage during the gap which occurs in many plans. Some plans may only offer generic drug coverage during the gap.
Tip: On your monthly statements from your Medicare Part D provider, follow the cost of your prescription, amount paid by your plan, amount paid by you.
Resources: http://www.medicareadvocacy.org/PartD_DoughnutHole.htm
“Find & Compare Plans that Cover Drugs” [Medicare]
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Susan interviews Gordon, a 63 year old man who is passionate about health, nutrition, a positive mental attitude and weight lifting.
Gordon discusses how balancing nutrition with a boost of fiber, a multi-vitamin and fish oil for DHA is a great formula for healthy aging.
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Susan interviews Gordon, a 63 year old man who is passionate about health, nutrition, a positive mental attitude and weight lifting.
Gordon explains how he is able to continue breaking his own world weight lifting records despite the fact that he is in his 60’s.
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Episode #017 – Laurel reflects on the Beatles tune, “When I’m 64″ and talks about how she tore up her AARP card when she first received it.
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“You could easily become poverty stricken and destitute if you don’t have Long Term Care Insurance policy, or rich children, or a gazillion dollars in the bank!”
Long Term Care Insurance is not a luxury or for the rich. It is a necessity that you should not ignore.
For years, Americans have believed that Medicare would take care of them when they get older, but that just isn’t true. Nursing homes are home to over 8,000,000 Americans, and that number is going to double in the next 10 years! Continue reading Report: How To NOT Be A Burden On Your Children
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Episode #014 – One look at this 85 year old man and you will want to take up gardening too. He is physically fit and looks like he is in his 60’s.
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Episode #011 – Ginny could write a book about all of the stars she has worked with, but won’t because she is a lady.
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Episode #009 – Does keeping busy and having purpose keep you young? After viewing this segment, you should have no doubt!
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I was in a car accident a couple of years ago and injured, among other parts of my body, my lower back. I can’t talk about the case in any more detail, but I can say that the defense attorney who told me that my injuries were not injuries at all. He said they were natural age related changes to my infrastructure, but he was a j— , (I need to be kind here) and severely misguided. One thing that I learned in my grad school physiology class is that there are few age related diseases. Many less than imagined.
First, many of the ailments that we encounter as we age are not as much age related as they are lifestyle related. For example, take Type 2 Diabetes. Yes, that is more prevalent in the older adults, in fact it is often referred to as “adult onset diabetes,” but it is not a necessary evil.
In fact, Type 2 Diabetes is also increasing dramatically among children, adolescents and younger adults. That’s probably because with older adults, there is a tendency to exercise less, lose muscle mass and gain weight. Many kids today are corn syrup and Nintendo DS junkies (but of course, not mine.)
In a nut shell, people with Type 2 Diabetes can’t make or respond to insulin properly. Insulin works like a key that opens the doors to cells and allows the glucose in. Without insulin, glucose can’t get into the cells and so it stays in the bloodstream. As a result, the level of sugar in the blood remains higher than normal.
With Type 2 Diabetes, insulin is still produced but the body doesn’t respond to the insulin normally. Glucose is less able to enter the cells and do its job of supplying energy. This in turn, causes the blood sugar level to rise, making the pancreas produce even more insulin. Eventually, the pancreas can wear out from working overtime to produce extra insulin. Then, the pancreas may no longer be able to produce enough insulin to keep a person’s blood sugar levels within a normal range.
What does a healthy lifestyle have to do with this process? Being overweight raises your insulin resistance and the kind of food that you eat can affect your blood glucose levels. It stands to reason that if you exercise the resulting decrease in body fat will result in improved insulin sensitivity.
So, dad (if you are reading this blog) please stop eating hot dogs and ribs and cherry pie because I love you. And, while you are at it go take a swim or something. On the other hand, you are almost 80 so go ahead and feast upon your fatty favorites and enjoy your day sitting at the race track. I love you and I want you to be happy and live life on your terms, but please don’t forget to take your Vytorin after!
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